I wanna talk about motivation.
You're only doing your husband or wife a disservice when you let them just sit in their lives unchanging and stagnant. This is the person you promised to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse... so kick their butt into shape, man! Now just to be clear- motivation is always respectful, never spiteful. It's never "hey fatass, lay off the chips ahoy," but "okay, monday- me and you have a date at the gym". If you're not constantly reevaluating not only your own goals, but your partner's as well, you're not helping each other become the best possible version of his/her self. And (trust me) it's okay to fall into the trap of staleness or resting on your laurels sometimes, but you just have to know how to motivate each other to help get out of those slumps that we all fall in.
If I don't surround myself with people that are constantly just "doing" things I personally tend to get unmotivated. I think it helps that I married a highly motivated man and have highly motivated friends. If Erick isn't working at his job, he's making music, singlehandedly trying to start his design and production company, or working on cover art and logos for up-and-coming artists.
He pushes me to do better.
To be better.
Erick and I have been separated by our work schedules a lot this week and it's been tough on us. We need to make time for our marriage and family while still managing to grow as individuals. I think that every second we get we are evaluating each other... seeing how we feel... what we can do to help one another out. Even though we may not have all the time in the world, we have the right foot forward. We're making lasting impacts and asking each other to give 110%. He's kicking my ass.